DWQA Questions › Tag: learning opportunityFilter:AllOpenResolvedClosedUnansweredSort byViewsAnswersVotesA viewer asks: “Married couples often think, “If we just love each other more everything will work out.” Humanity, though, identifies specific sources of difficulties and solutions. Psychological approaches focus on personality traits, attachment styles, and emotional patterns. Sociological approaches focus on social structures, norms, and inequalities. Therapeutic approaches focus on communication, conflict resolution, and repair. Behavioral approaches focus on marriage as a set of changeable behaviors. Given the high levels of ignorance of the karmic causes of relationship troubles, and the weaknesses and variable effectiveness of the main approaches, how can “be more loving,” even the divine principles version, be enough?” What is Creator’s perspective?ClosedNicola asked 2 weeks ago • Divine Guidance45 views0 answers0 votesA viewer asks: “Creator, is the salmon’s quest for its birthplace, struggling its way upwards in steep waterfalls, a good indication or even a proof there is a Creator behind our physical universe and the diversity of species? What can Creator tell us about this peculiar behavior?”ClosedNicola asked 2 weeks ago • Physical Universe45 views0 answers0 votesA viewer asks: “Would the techniques of releasing trapped emotions, as expressed in Dr. Bradley Nelson’s book The Emotion Code be of benefit for conscious healing processes? Dr. Nelson claims that his procedure reaches the subconscious and interacts with it in clearing trapped emotions.”ClosedNicola asked 2 months ago • Divine Guidance73 views0 answers0 votesA viewer asks: “Many people assume the self is mostly fixed, defined by circumstances, something to “find,” not something you shape or choose. But modern psychology sees the self as constructed, context-sensitive, and changeable. Some philosophers and New Age advocates also claim we can choose who we become. We seem to have part of us that defines an “automatic experience of reality” that decides what becomes “real” for us but we also seem to have a capacity to choose a new “intentional reality” as a story we choose and create by changing how we interpret things via our beliefs and biases. Can Creator give a brief tutorial to explain this dilemma to help us intentionally create better versions of ourselves?” What can Creator tell us?ClosedNicola asked 2 months ago • Divine Guidance78 views0 answers0 votesA viewer asks: “Richard J. Davidson, author of “The Emotional Life of Your Brain”, says understanding the brain increases agency over emotional reactions. He claims you can train the brain to respond differently to challenges and that with the right mental exercises, and habits, it’s possible to reshape neural pathways, enhance resilience, attention, and overall emotional well-being. For example, he claims that naming an emotion activates the prefrontal cortex, which helps regulate the brain’s fear-and-stress center. He says the prefrontal cortex can also regulate other emotion-generating regions (amygdala, insula, hippocampus). How effective are these suggestions in gaining agency over emotional reaction?”ClosedNicola asked 2 months ago • Divine Guidance54 views0 answers0 votesA viewer asks: “The classical view of emotions is they “happen to you” – regulation means managing reactions after they occur (e.g., calming down when angry). Lisa Feldman Barrett’s Theory of Constructed Emotion however argues that emotions are constructed (based on context, past learning, and bodily input) rather than hardwired biological and universal responses. If correct, practices like increasing body awareness, expanding emotional vocabulary, and reframing experiences can change the way we build emotions in real time. How well can this framework be used to turn emotional reactions into something we can consciously shape, meaning we have agency over how we feel, rather than just endure?”ClosedNicola asked 2 months ago • Divine Guidance58 views0 answers0 votesThemistocles (thuh·mist-uh·kleez) said: “I have with me two gods, Persuasion and Compulsion.” Jenny Mollen said, “I think the power of persuasion would be the greatest superpower of all time.” Aesop said, “Persuasion is often more effectual than force.” And James Altucher (All-tuh-chur) said, “Most people don’t have the power of persuasion.” Does this explain why so many turn to compulsion instead? What is Creator’s perspective on persuasion versus coercion, and persuasion as a superpower?ClosedNicola asked 1 year ago • Limiting Beliefs807 views0 answers0 votesHow much of the power of persuasion is a product of divinely bestowed soul attributes, versus a learned skill that one acquires through trial and error over many lifetimes? If a learned skill, how is that skill transferred from lifetime to lifetime? Is it recorded in the akashic records and made part of cellular memory during the fetus’s formation? Or is it something wholly spiritual in nature, retained by the spirit itself, and if one learns the power of persuasion while incarnated, are their newly discovered persuasive powers on display in the light between lives as genuine learning? What can Creator tell us?ClosedNicola asked 1 year ago • Limiting Beliefs405 views0 answers0 votesPersuasion is the power to effect CHANGE or perhaps prevent change. And even though there is a distinction made between persuasion and compulsion, the threat of compulsion can, in and of itself, be HIGHLY persuasive. The iconic fire and brimstone sermons delivered with great theatrics by eloquent ministers comes to mind. A “fear monger” or one who “peddles fear” also comes to mind. What is Creator’s perspective of persuasion AS compulsion?ClosedNicola asked 1 year ago • Limiting Beliefs447 views0 answers0 votesIt’s interesting to note that the iconic “snake oil salesman” never had a storefront, like a pharmacy, but instead pulled into the town square with his wagon and hawked his magical products directly to the crowds, and then often “hightailed it” to the next town before the truth of his products became more widely known. Google defined snake oil salesmen as those who deceived people in order to get money from them. The successful ones were highly persuasive people. When one has such ability, it seems so puzzling that such a person could not find a “legitimate” avenue in which to practice those skills and be successful without all the ignominy. Good salespeople are in demand everywhere and for everything—why resort to fraud? What can Creator tell us about exploiting the masterful use of persuasion to willfully engage in fraud?ClosedNicola asked 1 year ago • Limiting Beliefs394 views0 answers0 votesWhen one does a study of some of the most effective salespeople, one often encounters a mixed bag of ethically questionable tactics. One extremely successful car salesman would sit down with a phone book, call people and tell them their new car was ready for pickup. When people inevitably said, “I didn’t order a car,” he would profusely apologize and then immediately segue into asking them if they were at all in the market for a new car. With this approach, he made a fortune and set the world record at the time for most non-fleet sales made by a car salesman “one customer at a time.” Now to his credit, he was extremely likable, attentive, thorough, and did great customer service, sent birthday cards to his customers, etc. Nevertheless, a lot of his success was predicated on a lie and deception. What is Creator’s perspective?ClosedNicola asked 1 year ago • Limiting Beliefs385 views0 answers0 votesIn reference to the above car salesman’s success, he was successful because he was good at “cold calling” which most people have a deep aversion to. Cold calling is one of the most obvious breaches of the “Golden Rule” there is. Almost everyone HATES getting cold calls, and yet most successful salespeople will assert that you need to do it in order to be successful. Brian remembers one “boiler room” telephone canvasser who bragged how she abused anyone cold calling her but had no problem doing cold calling for a living. The stark hypocrisy was dramatic and utterly remorseless and unapologetic. She literally thought it was “hilarious” and laughed about it. Brian found it disturbing, to say the least. What is Creator’s perspective?ClosedNicola asked 1 year ago • Limiting Beliefs482 views0 answers0 votesCold calling works precisely because so many people have an aversion to doing it. That alone makes it a successful strategy for those who can bring themselves to do it. Brian did sales in the late 80s and struggled with this dilemma. A rule of thumb is it takes 10 calls to get a lead, 10 leads to get an appointment, and 10 appointments to get a sale. Brian demonstrated to himself that, indeed, the formula works and managed to get a house listing as a result. But rather than being encouraged by his success, he was so overcome with guilt about disturbing people eating dinner that he eventually abandoned sales as a career altogether. Cold calling cannot work if everyone does it. Everyone’s phone would ring all day long and it would be utterly chaotic and untenable. There is the idea that, if “everyone” can’t, then maybe no one “should?” What is Creator’s perspective?ClosedNicola asked 1 year ago • Limiting Beliefs396 views0 answers0 votesAnother successful sales guru made a fortune selling heavy stainless steel cookware door to door. (A direct form of cold calling that predates the telephone). He frequently recounted one sale he made where the woman initially slammed the front door on him and, in response, he went around to the back door to apologize for knocking on the front door. He was so charming and disarming, that the woman felt bad about mistreating him and consented to listening to his presentation as a way to make amends. She ended up buying the very expensive cookware he was selling. We are confronted with the dilemma of his apology being “insincere,” because he certainly felt no remorse about knocking on her front door at all, much less her back door after she made it clear she didn’t want to interact with him. What is Creator’s perspective on this anecdote, and what positive and negative divine lessons can we learn from it?ClosedNicola asked 1 year ago • Limiting Beliefs398 views0 answers0 votes“Breaking the ice” is a phrase in common usage. The online Free Dictionary defines the term this way: “To do something as a means of reducing or eliminating shyness, awkward tension, or unfamiliarity.” So much of persuasion founders on this “iceberg” that the term is quite an ingenious summation of a common problem requiring great skill to master. When someone knows or learns how to “break the ice” effectively, the world is literally their oyster. This is clearly a very important “art of living” skill and lesson that so many people would benefit from mastering but struggle with intensely. What divine insight can Creator share about this common dilemma and challenge?ClosedNicola asked 1 year ago • Limiting Beliefs381 views0 answers0 votes
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