“Secondly, I saw [name withheld] again last night and we had a very interesting conversation. I was quite forthcoming about my own beliefs and perhaps made too much of a “frontal assault.” I did try to be delicate but forthright, thinking that would forestall any possibility of a “love bite” or misunderstanding, but I was probably lacking in vulnerability. She seems to have a very loving spirit so, as you have said, is a key advantage that women have and quality that they bring to the world. You were there, of course, so may I ask what you think of my approach and how to improve it?” What can we tell him?

In a situation where there could be great difficulty in proceeding with a close relationship of mutual interdependence, being forthright even to the extent it is off-putting could be a blessing if it helps to defend you from making a misstep in forming a deep alliance with someone who may not be appropriate. If you think about the definition of "love bite" there will always be a love component, an attraction, and a powerful one—that is how it is brought about. It is a powerful lure that is difficult to ignore and turn away from. You are seeking justifications for taking an interest, but that will be a given to happen in such a circumstance. The important consideration here is whether you are willing to put yourself at risk or not.