This is a legacy of karmic history that created great suffering in prior lifetimes and was awakened in the current life by early childhood abuse issues. This is not for her ears because she is still in a vulnerable position regarding her family history and all she faces on many levels in dealing with her family, her spiritual awakening, her role as parent and spouse, and so on. All of which feed these conflicts or have an added stressful component to make the difficulty more difficult and uncertain as to its resolution. The sum total of stress is significant and complicates things already.
This is a solvable problem, but only if she obtains the deep healing needed to handle such a difficult karmic history. This can be done in a variety of ways via subconscious channeling, via repeated Protocol sessions, or using HMR. The ideal would be to do all three, as they are not entirely overlapping, but rather complementary with each having particular strengths and applicability for a portion of the wounding in representing the best way to deal with the ultimate resolution of the trauma events in question, especially as they span more than one lifetime.