Nicola Staff asked 3 years ago
The sexual impulse is a built-in biological imperative. It is designed to be that way to not only favor procreation but to make available to humans the shared delight of expressing physical intimacy through sexual congress. There are individual responsibilities that go along with relationships and that does not exclude sexual intimacy from consideration simply because it is pleasurable. All pleasurable acts, in a sense, are case-specific as is true for anything unpleasant that might be experienced or intended to happen as a kind of coping mechanism or defensive maneuver when one is in a difficult relationship with someone, not only because of threats to the love bonds, but over business or a conflict arising from competing interests, and so on. We cannot make sweeping generalizations about most things other than the benefit of love being applied because that is case-specific also. Love given to an abuser may be ill-advised because it could encourage the abusive behavior, the abusive conduct. Love can be expressed in many ways. It can be done through the divine and not to an unwilling or undeserving recipient who would misinterpret the gesture and perhaps lead to unintended consequences.
When it comes to engaging in sexual behavior, the burden is on the couple to avoid untoward consequences including conception and all that that would imply unless there is a willingness to rear the child should that happen. This also extends to the karmic consequences from not only having a willingness but a wherewithal, as it is irresponsible to generate new life when there is not a means for support given current circumstances. So there are many unique situations. The major consideration with human conduct is for each party to take responsibility for where the relationship is heading and to give due consideration to whether the energies and intentions are truly matching and truly in alignment, not only with the prospect of personal enjoyment but whether it is in divine alignment—that is a deeper consideration.
There are many matches made in heaven, but many made in the moment to serve human convenience with too little thought to longer-term consequences for those involved. When people are not a good match for one another and there is a resulting unbalanced relationship where one party is vulnerable and dependent in an unhealthy fashion with a likelihood of a breakup in the end, this is going down a dark path that will end in ever-greater misery the longer it persists and the more hopes are built up only to have the hopes dashed by rejection. So we cannot give a broad-based consent but turn the question back to the questioner to, in each case, do a soul searching within one’s being to evaluate all that is known about not only the self and your needs, your plans and goals in life, but those of the other party. This may require an ongoing assessment as situations can change. Two people may come together for a casual relationship and both desiring casual sex, but if one party falls deeply in love and this is not mutual, the arrangement will end up causing harm in the end when there is a breakup.
There are situations as well when the desire for love and a sexual relationship are being manipulated either because one of the parties has this as a strong motivation to dominate and subjugate a series of partners as a way of making conquests, or simply seeking novelty and will flit from flower to flower, so to speak, leaving a trail of broken hearts. There are also darker manipulations that can be done in ways to serve human subjugation and the darkness as a source of evil in your midst. So there are many things to consider, some small, some large, and on an ongoing basis, because situations may change over time along with the stakes involved. It is up to the humans themselves to learn and grow in healthy ways and develop discernment and good judgment about how they expend their energies and choose wisely all they do.
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