DWQA QuestionsCategory: Limiting BeliefsTrust is very closely associated with safety. It’s easy to trust when one feels safe, and very difficult when one does not. What is Creator’s perspective?
Nicola Staff asked 2 years ago
We see these as parallel and intertwined because they are reflecting a similar level of vibration energetically, in terms of the emotions, in being experienced. While not the same thing, they are both a higher-level vibration and so things must be in reasonably good shape to experience either of these. So what you ask about is getting at the truth of things, that if one does not feel safe, one will not necessarily trust those around them, depending on their level of understanding of where that unsafe feeling is coming from. If they are with trusted companions and caregivers who they have come to know from long experience and have faith in, the presence of those others who are trusted may well restore good feelings and overcome any doubts in the moment, and restore trust in things and in life itself. This is the main problem when a young infant, or even an older individual child, is thrust into new circumstances, especially with other people they do not know. If there is not a history of being loved and nurtured and a series of successful encounters with others that went well, causing no harm or difficulty, that will build the capacity for trusting even strangers and will serve the person well as they grow and learn, and branch out among a wider and wider circle of acquaintances and friends, eventually, they cultivate. When one is harmed at a very young age, trust will be quite difficult because it does depend on feeling safe, so a low vibrational state of mind will make it very difficult to have any kind of response requiring a higher vibration. In a room full of strangers, when one does not trust unfamiliar people, that may trigger past memories of similar circumstances when one was not safe and bad things happened, and that might well create a block against interacting, and even an escalation of inner negativity causing the person to want to flee to save themselves. Being forced into situations where one must override their instincts and tough it out is quite difficult, and this causes great wounding in young children when they encounter unpleasant circumstances, perhaps in a daycare setting or later on in school, where they might not trust their teacher and feel very unsafe at the same time. Those children who are bullied have good reason to lack both trust and feelings of safety. So life teaches many things and it is important to develop discernment about who one can trust and who one cannot. Once a young person experiences being harmed, it will be all the harder for them to establish trust in others and thereby feel safe around them. Here again is a mechanism and phenomenology that can become quite a trial and a hindrance, and hold a person back from happiness when those inner feelings are triggered too readily and cause responses that cannot be reined in and held in abeyance in order to test the waters, and perhaps be sure of someone before giving in to the need to withdraw to save the self in every such possible encounter. So here again what is needed is a balance so due caution is maintained when there is uncertainty about one's environment and the trustworthiness of those present, but enough inner strength that one can handle the circumstances and not immediately have too high a stress level triggered automatically, which makes it impossible to tolerate the situation, in order to give things a chance, and once a person develops adequate discernment will be able to mix in society and do quite well, and will come to trust their instincts about such things and it will serve them well if it is developed in a healthy way. Some can do this and others not, and that is the penalty of being harmed, it may forever impair the ability to feel safe no matter where one is or who one is with, and that is a major source of difficulty for far too many and can be a lifelong impairment leading to chronic unhappiness.