DWQA QuestionsCategory: Limiting BeliefsThe common assumption is that arrogance is really a cover for deep inner insecurity and doubt about one’s standing, value, and capabilities. So this implies that not all of the arrogant fully believe their own exaggerated self-appraisal. Are some of the arrogant self-aware of their arrogance, while others are genuinely clueless? What can Creator tell us?
Nicola Staff asked 2 years ago
We would say that both mechanisms can occur but both types of individual, regardless of their inner motives, are largely clueless and not self-aware about their own behavior and its effect on others, let alone the complications it poses for their own success and happiness. After all, what people do is an inner response to the outer world largely as a means of making one's way, striving for something more, something desirable one does not yet have or wants to have again, like a meal, because they are becoming hungry, and how they go about that will be crucial in governing their success, which may well depend on getting along with the broader community of beings they live with or live among. The art of living is striking the right balance to serve the self while not being a disservice to others or an exploiter to take things undeserved for the self. That is the cardinal sign of an arrogant individual who will often attempt to control things because "they know better than others," and that superior attitude will make them impatient in following the leadership of others, and will likely lead to resistance or a power grab of some kind to wrest control and continue to take charge of things so they are done to that person's satisfaction, and this will play out regardless of the consequences in most cases because the arrogant will not see their own flaws. Regardless of how the arrogance originates and is fueled, such individuals are unaware of how they are perceived because they feel a kind of entitlement, to not only act on their certitude of superiority but are eager to broadcast it and make it quite clear to others they are special, and to command their respect. Developing an arrogant demeanor and tone may well be a cover for inner insecurity, but it is rarely recognized by the individual as an inner weakness, it is simply a kind of spur to encourage exerting excessive power as a way of coping. So their default mode is to not retreat and be passive in the face of inner doubts but to turn that into a kind of offensive posture rather than a defensive one, to be proactive, and this can serve as a convenient distraction. By attacking others, they will divert focus on the arrogant person's motivations so it creates an automatic zone of safety. Their aggressive tactics, being arrogant, domineering, and controlling, keep others off guard because the focus will always be on them, what they are doing, what might be substandard and needing improvement, and so on. The liability in using arrogance as a compensation for insecurity is because of the destructiveness that results by alienating others, if only with regard to their feelings and opinions of the arrogant would-be leader or controller. It makes no friends and, in effect, condemns that individual with inner weakness, who uses arrogance as a shield. The result will be to drive others away and be rejected where it counts the most, in discouraging a willingness to be loving, and love is the one thing everyone needs in abundance to be happy.