DWQA QuestionsCategory: CreatorA practitioner asks: “As I have mentioned before, I struggle a bit with the clinical sort of tone of the answers. This is not meant as a criticism of you, but very often the Divine gives you compliments about your curiosity and being on track with your intuition, and so on, so how can others like me get some encouragement and validation from Creator? It always feels kind of weird when they say “your client” in the answers, and there’s no reference to being a beloved child, no encouragement that this is a good question and they are pleased with how we are doing or anything like that. It’s rare anyway. So if God is a God of love, then why don’t we hear it more in these channeled answers? I suppose this is kind of a philosophical point about what is valid love communication. Some people believe that in a loving relationship, you should be telling each other “I love you” frequently. On the other hand, what really counts is how they act and what they do to help each other and to demonstrate that love. Is it like that? You have also mentioned that the channelings come across in that way because that’s how you are, as a scientist, but it does seem there might be a double standard or playing of favorites going on. Anyway, I feel confused and let down about this, so if it’s important to me it might be helpful to others to hear Creator’s answer about it, too. It’s probably something a little bit off with my depth of character to have that need, I realize.” What can we tell him?
Nicola Staff asked 2 years ago
What we would say here, first of all, is that we do not see this as something wrong with your depth of character but rather your need for approval, your need for nurturing, your need to be singled out with praise. Your channel approaches us in a matter-of-fact way and with an open mind and as dispassionate and objective a stance as he can muster in order to do the job of channeler, which is to be objective and allowing and unbiased. This requires not having an emotional involvement in the moment with what is being asked about, so it is by necessity a kind of clinical discourse with signs and symptoms and situations and circumstances being described dispassionately, with an earnest desire for honest feedback that serves the widest need and not the personal feelings, to be sure, of the channeler who is, after all, the one reaching out to us, not even the person submitting a question to be asked on their behalf. We occasionally turn the voice of our answer to address the client specifically, but that is more an exception than the rule. It all depends on the need of the moment and how the channeler is holding the intention in asking the question as to whether or not it will be referred back to the questioner personally and directly. That is likely to happen more when the question is one about a personal dilemma and the individual is suffering and struggling, and greatly needing something from us. That is when we may take more trouble to address them personally in some respect with encouragement and reassurance. When you look at channelings about such struggling individuals, you will see much attention to detail and quite careful nurturing and upliftment we offer the individual directly, to give them a sense they are cared for and they are considered, and we are wanting very much to help them and encourage them to keep going, and so on. Your many questions over the years now have been addressed in the context of the purpose behind the question, more so than whether they are good questions or great questions and we are failing to acknowledge your wisdom, your perspicacity, your diligence, or your being willing to take time and energy to submit a question you think could be helpful for others and might enjoy a pat on the back; that we understand, but it is not what we do. We occasionally praise the questioner but it is not the rule. It becomes a slippery slope where everyone will expect such praise and may begin to read into lack of personal recognition for the worth of their question as a backhanded compliment, meaning that we don't think so much of their offering, and so are not saying anything in the way of praise to them for their submission. In the many thousands of things we are asked, we see such exchanges not only as a distraction that is not the purpose of the outreach being made, and our desire to give information of value to all as a first order of business, but a slippery slope where it becomes a kind of beauty contest—who can ask the best and smartest questions, the deepest and most penetrating that presuppose divine wisdom, and get a gold star from Creator for the asking? We understand people want recognition, they want reassurance, they want validation. Everyone likes love, everyone likes a gesture of loving kindness sent their way, but we are speaking to how that might be interpreted. You are already seeing your channeler seeming to be praised, and your questions are not given similar praise, as meaning something about you when it is really about the process and the energetics of who is asking and for what reasons, and the nature of the question and the kind of response it might entail. You have asked many highly personal questions about things of great importance to you, which we have answered quite dutifully, with every measure of support we can to give you an informed assessment and great encouragement, and with loving intention. If you cannot feel that or appreciate you are getting personal advice from Creator because we care about you and want to do the best for you that we can when you reach out to us, there indeed is something missing in you in the way of feeling insecure. You use as the yardstick the perceived favored treatment of your channel in seeing us often seemingly praise his intuitive ability to have perceived a problem he asks about or seeing in advance the answer that may be forthcoming from us. That is done because he is the workhorse here, not the people who send occasional questions, often that are self‑serving in the sense they are wanting something of personal interest asked, and it is not them directly who are coming to us. And in the case of the perceived praise given, it is not what you think, a kind of special closeness and special loving concern that we care so much about him we praise him. It is in fact more the opposite, that he doubts himself and is never quite sure he is correct in his assessments and his intuitive reading of something, and we are simply helping to give him feedback as a gesture of support. That gesture of support is at once reassurance, but also a diagnostic indicator that he has uncertainty rather than deep inner conviction and knowing he counts on, that is rock solid; it is still, in that sense, a work in progress. The stakes are much, much higher for him in being able to trust his intuitive ability than for you. You are not putting your reputation on the line and, indeed, your entire life's efforts, all of which hinge on intuitive perception and the ability to connect with us by staying uncorrupted and staying in an evenhanded frame of mind that is not hindered by excess ego. That takes dedication and commitment and he is successful because he does not presume too much, he does not over believe in himself. It is better to under believe than over believe, but he also has a healthier perspective about what that means and is willing to live with having less approbation and praise from us other than the workmanlike acknowledgments we give him. They, too, are clinical and appear to be like praise, but they are personally directed to his personal performance because that is fully germane to the work relationship and the task underway. So such feedback is part and parcel of maintaining a connection intuitively between the two of us and is essential to the success of the enterprise to keep it supported. People asking questions and submitting them to your channel have no demands on them, there are no requirements for asking a question. It can be submitted by a very weak believer or a strong one, it can be submitted by someone who cares deeply about the issue from a loving standpoint or someone who is quite angry and quite resentful of something being done. Your channel will take the question and ask it dispassionately as best he can in order to get the truest answer that fits the greatest interpretation and perspective, and he as well will not benefit from being given excess praise—that could be a slippery slope for him in thinking that is something he must strive for more and more and, if he does not get it, begin to doubt himself more, and that would undercut his performance, and to indulge it would eventually come to a head at some point because he would become too dependent and, when we were unable to continue keeping up a high level of praise, might crash and burn. So there are good reasons in how we divvy out some kind of assessment for the individual making an inquiry. If you look at all the questions you have asked, you will see we have indeed praised you personally on occasion, and this is true of many questions that are in the database. There are varied reasons why this is done, it is not simply because we like the question or we like the questioner, there are often deeper reasons as well that pertain to that individual and their makeup. So we want to reassure you, you are not truly missing out, you are being given your share but this is, after all, a question‑and‑answer forum for an exchange of information, not a healing modality in and of itself. Praise and verbal reassurance are all well and good and have their place, but they are a temporary feel-good gesture and we use most of our energy for deeper work and longer-term goals than dispensing pleasure in the moment for people. So we would encourage you to reflect on all we have said and know that what you feel is missing is not mistreatment or unfair treatment of you, there are other reasons for your feelings that lie within you.