This is simply a behavioral pattern exhibited by the victims among you who are rendered needy because their wounding takes away the feelings of love and nurturing all hunger for and need in order to feel satisfied and complete. This is a depiction of the reality of the truism, “No person is an island.” All need someone else at times to share their lives, to commiserate, to be a sounding board, to be a compatriot, to share strength through comforting and bestowing protection as through friendship and forming an alliance of support, and so on. So it is natural when feeling victimized to look for a source of support elsewhere. Because the suffering is uppermost in the person’s mind, that is what they may lead with in terms of an exchange with those around them, to complain about their day, complain about their difficulties and current circumstances, hoping to arouse sympathy so others will volunteer to give something of themselves.
While this is often seen rather cynically as exploitation, in most cases it is a genuine expression of deep need because all need to be loved, all need to be cared about, and to have others they can trust and rely on to help give them moral support, if not material support. So people will use whatever means they have at their disposal to attract the attention and involvement of fellow human beings. So what one might see as someone being out of alignment and misguided, may in actuality be a desperate state of dishevelment and holding a quite low vibration that might be quite intolerable from many standpoints. So people will be inclined to reach out to others to help them pick up the pieces and put their life back together. This does create a burden in many instances, but the intentions are not selfish per se, as they are genuine need in most cases.