Nicola Staff asked 3 weeks ago
The case study example we would like to give you today is involving a young woman striving to find her way in life and dealing with the vicissitudes of wanting a love relationship but quite fearful of making a commitment and putting her trust in a man as a life partner. This is a quite common dilemma. Just as the saying, "Love makes the world go round" is all too true, to the extent the world has been corrupted and hindered again and again in ways large and small by the rise of evil, many lives are altered for the worse by love gone wrong, love falling short, love being denied, and love being absent for those most unfortunate. Love is needed for divinity to exist and have an influence because it is designed through love, by love, for love, and is the basic energy of our workings. So if love cannot take part, our involvement will abruptly cease and that, of course, will have many consequences. You will be left on your own, and the problem for this young woman is that the love deficit is being felt quite keenly.
Most humans go through this growing up when they reach puberty and the hormones provide that chemical spurt of energy and zeal in thinking of the opposite sex and finding such individuals intriguing and attractive, and this gives rise to many yearnings, longings for expression, and experiencing what is in the potential and designed in specifically to foster intimacy—a close relationship and sharing in a deep way as well as a physical interchange, like sexual pleasure, as a way of giving and receiving love that is a deeply romantic connection designed for the purpose of coming together and forming a family unit. It might remain as a childless couple, but in most cases there will be at least some desire on the part of both parties to have children as a furtherance of love generation and an experiencing of all that will bring in widening the circle of love defining the lifetime.
You might say that finding a loving partner is job one. From a spiritual perspective, this can be trivialized and thought of as even an indulgence or a vulgar expression of sexual impulses, but that is a quite cynical view. There are certainly individuals who are impaired who might well have a sexual relationship, or a series of them, that is simply the built-in chemical imperative of the physiological makeup creating a powerful sex drive. But when that is the primary motive alone, it will most likely be exhibited by someone with a character disorder that makes them narcissistic, being self-centered in wanting to gain pleasure for their own benefit, for whom that is their sole goal in life. They will not be able to care about another, except as someone to manipulate for their own personal benefit, because genuine and deep love of a divine nature will be limited or impossible.
There are many things that can get in the way of true loving feelings. This starts with the self, which is ironic on the heels of talking about narcissists and the extremes of the psychopath being solely self-oriented, and even dangerous to be around because such individuals will have a poorly developed moral sense and are all too willing to exploit others, to take rather than give. The reason giving is impossible for them is that they have no love within even for themselves. The very feeling is foreign, so to cultivate it is a path back to a restoration that rarely happens and will certainly not without a divine intervention.
The plight of our case study subject wanting love but held back, in a practical sense, from seeking it in a productive way is not simply desperation from wanting a lover so intensely but having inner doubts about her own self-worth, her own attractiveness, and her chances of finding someone who will make her a priority in their life. Usually such individuals who come across as timid, and perhaps even weak in their nature, are viewed as lacking wherewithal, but almost always the problem is deep inner wounding not fully appreciated on a conscious level but literally haunting them from the past, and recognized as such quite keenly by the deep subconscious mind below the conscious awareness. But that level of the mind is the largest part of the mind and it will interact quite efficiently with the emotions and generate many strong feelings when things are out of balance.
This young woman had a series of lifetimes of being exploited by men, led along, taken advantage of, and then rejected or abandoned with devastating consequences that were painful and even life-shortening. This included a number of circumstances where she had given birth to children who were abandoned along with her by a life partner, and this greatly magnified the pain of loss because it harmed the children every bit as much as her and greatly multiplied the grief and loss from the abandonment.
The television and cinema are replete with many love stories with tragic circumstances involving love relationships, so there are many storylines that provide working knowledge of what to expect if one is jilted by a lover or rejected by a spouse who has perhaps fallen for someone else and walks away from a marriage. The pain and suffering depicted will be quite understandable, but it will also resonate deeply for those who have been through such events in other lifetimes without realizing this is so consciously. But their deep subconscious will know, it will have reviewed within the akashic records that record everything that happens in each and every lifetime, and will see the self having gone through such trials and tribulations and suffered the consequences. That pain will still not have been healed and will be on record, stirred up simply by being observed, and seeing an example in the current life of a friend, or even actors on a screen going through a life where they were betrayed by someone, will have stirred up within all of that past pain, partly in sympathy but partly also in the realization they, too, have suffered, and there will automatically be concern about avoiding such events again, and that is what is getting in the way of this young woman.
Inevitably, trauma impacts someone on multiple levels and to some extent this will lead to the creation of new negative beliefs about the self, about others, about life and its meaning, the specifics of love relationships, what can be expected, and perhaps distorted through wounding to expect the worst, and have a basis for coping perhaps, but at the expense of having the flexibility to make things happen that will work out and not suffer a repeat performance of rejection, humiliation, and suffering. Once those beliefs creep in and take hold, the person themselves will not necessarily have a conscious awareness they have fenced themselves in, but it is literally the case because beliefs are the basic instruction set and marching orders people go by in their day-to-day affairs. This is how they know what is possible for them, at least in their way of thinking what is appropriate, what is customary, what is helpful and productive, and what must be avoided because it is breaking a rule or risking something that will cause things to end badly if poor choices are made.
So this young woman, through her fears, doubts, and negativity, both about herself and her dark belief that men are not trustworthy, has literally cordoned herself off from larger possibilities in moving from being single to making a life commitment based on love with a suitable partner and having a family. There are far too many people in the world who are lonely and living a loveless existence. It is the compounding of karma, largely, that does this and there are forces being brought to bear working on the culture as a whole to discourage positive expectations and create many obstacles to happiness, and that will feed negative expectations. Life can be hard when it consists of a basic struggle to obtain food, clothing, and shelter. There may not be a basic wherewithal to indulge in a love relationship of a romantic sort to cultivate a close interaction with a possibility of marriage and having children.
Karma is like having an invisible fence; people will bump into it and not realize how it got there, but are only reacting to inner doubts and fears, and their hesitation will cause them to miss opportunities to meet and form friendships that can grow and evolve into a lifelong love relationship. It will keep people on the sidelines, and at some point those limitations and restrictions will make them unattractive to others and become a self-fulfilling prophecy. People need some reciprocity if they endeavor to interact with a friendly gesture. If that is not returned in kind, they will move on and look for someone else to have fun with. We have said before many times that often the greatest opponent one has in life is their own self and its negative attributes—the inner doubts, fears, and false conclusions driven by anxiety and a magnified, distorted view of the self as having limitations, perhaps undeserved but insurmountable.
This young woman had the good fortune of being within the family of someone who was a member of Divine Life Support and was the beneficiary of being on their wish list for divine support, oversight, and healing attention. Just as the protocols request, we recognized immediately this karmic history and its already significant and potentially devastating, life-limiting consequences for this young girl, and went to work on strengthening her through healing so she would eventually be able to blossom and take what formerly were risks but now become a kind of fulfillment of inner yearning to be engaged with life more directly, more actively, and intently. So she is coming out of her shell and engaging with others, taking part in social events, and creating opportunities to be noticed, and to develop friendships that will bring other people her way and, in fact, at the present time, we have already set in motion steps to bring three different suitable prospects as a life partner her way.
Contrary to what many believe, you have a life purpose and a destiny but it is not carved in stone. The destiny is a set of possibilities and probabilities. In actuality, there are many suitable candidates for a life partner one can potentially arrange to meet, any one of whom will provide a useful outing for a new incarnation, serving the interests of one another to work on issues, individually and in partnership, to help each other learn and grow. This will inevitably result in ongoing healing for many past difficulties, limitations, and failures. This will be greatly assisted if there is belief in the divine and an invitation for getting divine assistance made through prayer.
So the blessing for this young woman is, she does have belief in a higher power, and this creates inner allowing for us to work with her, at times quite directly, in doing healing changes for inner wherewithal, negative beliefs, and resolving much trauma from the past. This has enabled her to make the progress still underway that will carry her forward in having a successful and happy life, because she has become road ready to hold her own and truly have something to offer a life partner, because she can share herself and a view of herself that is more mature and balanced in being able to recognize her value as a person. That self-confidence is very attractive to a prospective life partner. Their friendship and acts of affection will be more valuable and rewarding coming from someone who is seen as capable, accomplished, and representing someone of substance with good values, discernment, and high standards. That kind of inner strength is compromised by acts of trauma because they threaten to redefine the world and one's place in it. This is why recovering from a trauma event can take a lifetime, or more than one lifetime, because the consequences become devastating through that alteration of perspective that corrupts the beliefs, making hope and trust in others, or even the self, difficult or impossible.
So once again, we need to come full circle and see that gaining life circumstances allowing fullest expression and continued growth and learning will be based on developing confidence in the self in order to have the motivation to keep working on building the foundation needed, the skills, the basic wherewithal to fit in and have something positive and attractive to offer others. This is why self-development through healing is so important, it will allow love to flow first to the self to value one's yearnings and goals, and to feel deserving and confident one is worthy of the attentions of another—that is what she has gained courtesy of divine intervention brought to her through the Divine Life Support program and it is working on her behalf to make her whole.
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