Nicola Staff asked 7 hours ago
The case study example we would like to give you this month is the story of a young boy we will call Ralph who was overweight from a young age, and was teased by his siblings and even the parents at times. This is quite common in family groups because of the many sources of tension, not only from personal differences of opinion and emotions that arise, but karmic influences from many other lifetimes as well. That can include not only a recurrence of having a problem or being a problem to others, it can be highly personal when people within a family reincarnate together with a plan in mind at the outset to deal with one another and work on prior failings, times of difficulty, and, in all likelihood, work to address and heal the consequences of transgressions made in moments of weakness causing harm to one another.
So young Ralph was blessed with having two older sisters who not only resented him as being the baby of the family and losing their parents' primary focus once he arrived on the scene, they were reacting to having had prior lifetimes where there was tension among these three souls, vying for power and competing with one another, at times viciously, as often happens with children because they have not yet developed their full moral sensibilities and often act rashly, doing hurtful things. These girls quickly learned they could dominate their younger brother and went out of their way to torment him. When punished for physical acts of cruelty, they retreated into a campaign of psychological warfare because they could largely get away with being mean to him beyond the eyes and ears of the mother who could not be everywhere at once, and the father who was elsewhere earning a living to provide for the family.
These girls went out of their way to tease him at every turn and used his having an excessive weight as a way to shame him. For a young child like this, being treated with judgment so harshly, calling him chubby Tubby over and over again, he naturally assumed there was something wrong with him. Not understanding his predicament, he sought any means available to self-soothe and turned to eating frequent snacks, especially sweets, as a source of comfort. And this, naturally, worsened things in setting him up for lifelong habits to have a weight problem, poor dietary preferences, and a strong inner need for comfort that would be met in the worst way. This was bad enough, taking place within the family as a young child, but he saw this mistreatment get transferred to the sister's friends who visited the house to play and who were quickly recruited to amplify the taunting and the misery little Ralph felt within, being ridiculed over and over again.
And he went home in tears his first day at the kindergarten when he was bullied on the playground by an older boy teasing him, and couldn't stop thinking that his tormentor was right. Over and over again, he pounded the words into his own mind, "I'm a fat boy, I'm a fat boy." This set the tone for the rest of his time in school, making him painfully shy, assuming he was disadvantaged and being judged by everyone to be less worthy. And he went out of his way to avoid any conversation or group experiences where he might be the focus of attention, because he knew, sooner or later, he would be rejected with a verbal taunt and a label condemning him for being heavy. He became preoccupied with how he looked and became hyperaware of anyone looking in his direction, because he would always imagine them immediately judging and condemning him. After all, he hated himself. This became a mantra he turned to over and over and over, that when he was noticed by someone he would think, "I hate me more than you do!" That was his sole source of power, to turn all of his negative feelings inward and blame himself.
As his weight increased, his parents would point this out to him and caution him about overeating, so he would, perhaps, take to heart a health warning and become more disciplined. But this backfired. He began to eat as much and as often as he could because he wanted to die, and came to believe he could arrange that to happen at least through something that would give him pleasure. It grew to be a huge psychological reward as well, to indulge in things others could do without penalty and derive, at least, a guilty pleasure.
Fortunately, for the young man Ralph turned into, he was included on the wish list of someone receiving Divine Life Support sessions with the Lightworker Healing Protocol and Deep Subconscious Mind Reset protocol. So, Ralph, in turn, received help directly from Creator to work on the long programming history of self-judgment, with all the feelings of worthlessness and low expectations of ever experiencing love and acceptance from others because he became convinced, he was unlovable. Going through puberty really hit him hard, as it focused his issues in experiencing lifelong chronic loneliness with extra intensity due to the hormonal drive to seek out a life partner. Because of the Divine Life Support help he received, we went to work on strategizing a way to break the logjam and give him a lifeline with the chance to raise himself up. For that to work, needed for him to want something badly enough to take greater risk through interacting with someone who could be a potential love object. Most people are unaware that divine matchmaking, the proverbial "match made in heaven" not only exists, but is a commonplace. The reason, of course, is that finding a life partner is a critical step for most human beings to fully embrace life and all it has to offer in the array of learning opportunities and ways to contribute that come from life experience. It is difficult for someone who has never had a loving partner and raised a family, to have deep insight for helping others do so.
One of the key aspects in terms of the big picture here, is that many of the soul attributes needed to develop strong, healthy, and successful family ties and relationships, are the very soul attributes needed across the board to fit in with others, to develop healthy friendships, and effective work relationships as colleagues, mentors, and dedicated participants in society. Historically, for men especially, being on the job to have a working career and earn a living is the way most people help most others they encounter, as part of the widening circle of influence that in aggregate makes the world turn, so to speak, and advances human culture. It is how humanity has held its own in spite of so much manipulation and interference from extraterrestrial interlopers all through human history. Humanity has been challenged again and again as a kind of curiosity because of your resilience, flexibility, courage, and persistence in working to overcome adversity. All of these are soul attributes vital to a happy, successful, life.
So, to help Ralph with a lifeline, we arranged for a young female to enter his orbit, who struggled with the same issues of being overweight. Fortunately for her, she was raised in a very loving family and protected much of the time from excessive criticism and negativity because her family truly loved her for who she was as a person. And as a result, she was able to shine her light and that enabled her to develop more self-confidence so she was able to take the lead once she met Ralph and her heart went out to him in seeing him so closed off, suspecting why that might be, but being sympathetic and not giving up on him. For Ralph, getting attention from the young female was unexpected but resonated deeply within him with the lifelong yearning he had had to suppress all along the way. Not surprisingly to us, the two had many things in common in how they viewed life, as well as some of their interests. And their heightened sensitivity from being challenged, taught them much about what not to do in a relationship, so they were extra careful, extra thoughtful, and had a natural instinct in finding ways to show appreciation and signs of encouragement that were small at the beginning but needed to be, in keeping with the ultra-sensitivity of the two parties and their hesitation to take risks in showing their feelings.
With the young woman in the lead, she brought Ralph out of his shell. In fact, again and again he felt growing excitement at the prospect of seeing her and being near, and have an opportunity to interact with her, and found her easy-going and ready acceptance of him exhilarating. For her, the rewards were just as great because she had a profound effect on him and it brought out just the right positive feelings and instincts so that Ralph grew to know how to please her, and reward her openness in ways that enabled a mutual attraction to develop, grow into friendship, and bloom into true and deep love feelings. This was not accomplished by either party casting a magic spell over the other. It was nature taking its course in seeking love wherever it could be found, with much purposeful, and organized, systematic, and thorough healing for the deep karmic histories, particularly on Ralph's side, because of his traumatization at the hands of others, including family members in prior lifetimes. It was because we arranged for this to happen, following the budding friendship closely, and countering the roadblocks with deep karmic repair again and again as they arose. This was just the divine magic touch needed to keep things going and prevent a premature breakup, which happens all too often when karmic baggage gets in the way of love. So, this is a testament to the power of love, not only to heal all wounds, but to be the divine energy of personal destiny in creating a joyous and fulfilling life journey.
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