Nicola Staff asked 9 hours ago
The example we would like to give you for this outing is that of a young woman who, from the time she was a little girl, was painfully shy and extremely sensitive to outside criticism, and this was made worse by her feeling she lacked attractiveness, and unfortunately she was the subject of much bullying, predominantly by peers of her own gender, knowing that remarks about her looking ugly would be painful and, as bullies often are, those surrounding her were especially cruel in relishing the power they felt within, in feeling superior. This is the mistake of bullies everywhere, that in their arrogance they feel more deserving and more special because they can point out defects in others. What they are actually doing is revealing a kind of inner pettiness, that somehow it raises them up to lower others by contrasting what they espouse as the most meaningful characteristics worthy of blurting out either directly at their intended target or, in many cases, in a sinister fashion behind the scenes to spread a rumor of judgmental criticism that will circulate among the victim's peers and, as often happens, will be overheard or noticed, especially these days in social media, and will hit their mark, often in a devastating way, to undermine the confidence of the individual being criticized.
Young people, being often vulnerable and lacking life experience to gain strength and become toughened to develop a thick skin they might well need, particularly in those cultures less genteel, can be wounded for life, and this can start them on a downward spiral of diminishment. This has caused legions of wallflowers who avoid social contact out of fear of rejection, often because of their own self-criticism learned from the slings and arrows of others, many times, to get things started. Such mistreatment heaped on an innocent victim, who is sensitive in the first place, might well be magnified in that person's mind and become a life-limiting curse causing them to opt out, to give up before they get started, in effect, and remain on the sidelines for a lifetime in some cases. Some may never grow out of the subjugation such criticism will bring about, and that was true of this young girl who took things too much to heart and believed the exaggerated criticism intended to humiliate and, indeed, caused her to feel much shame. Her lack of confidence impaired her more and more, especially as she reached puberty and began to awaken to the inner drive to notice the opposite sex and craving acceptance as a normal human response.
This is a necessary part of maturation to prepare for adulthood and to be road-ready for engaging, eventually, with suitable partners to explore the various stages in developing a deep and abiding love relationship with someone who, if appropriate, can become a suitable life partner. Many, many who feel they are somehow substandard or deficient in the looks department or some other aspect of their makeup, such as personality, physical stature, or intellect, will be late bloomers, if they bloom at all, and may go an entire lifetime without marrying or even having a lover along the way. For a normal human being that is an almost unthinkable penalty. To consider it can result from childhood bullying puts the blame where it often resides, that the follies of youth are many, and the many thoughtless acts on the part of children still undeveloped in their morality can cause irreparable harm. That harm is not only felt by the victim but eventually will circle around to the perpetrator via the Law of Karma to exact a penalty, a comeuppance of some sort. This will not come with a description and an analysis enabling the recipient to fully understand why the rug is being pulled from under them, why someone they have attracted who seems to like them, or even love them deeply, will end up kicking them to the curb, so to speak, and devastating them through an act of rejection they never saw coming.
So this kind of future was in the cards for the young girl we are focused on in this discussion as an example of the harmfulness of thoughtless acts of criticism not appreciated for their potential level of cruelty. She went through her entire childhood and young adulthood never having a close relationship with someone of the opposite sex because of her shyness and self-abnegation not allowing her to get close, so she would not have to experience what she always predicted would be a painful rejection in the end. So her heart remained closed off and unavailable. This did not prevent her from the normal yearnings and the physiological imperatives of the youthful hormonal drive to attract a mate, and the painfulness of loneliness took a toll on her as well. But as all too often happens, she was trapped by her own inner negative and self-limiting beliefs in her unworthiness, and this is the true cause of damage, most often. Given the wide array of people in the world, there can realistically be expected that anyone can find a life partner on their level, with respect to desirable attributes versus shortcomings, but what cannot be corrected is self-condemnation, someone who truly believes they are unworthy and in a hopeless position of inadequacy, so it becomes a prison of their own making in the end. This, too, becomes a heightened karmic penalty for the perpetrator or perpetrators who started that cycle of negativity and undermining.
Fortunately, this young woman is on the wish list of someone in the Divine Life Support program of Get Wisdom and, as such, has been getting regular healing sessions with the Lightworker Healing Protocol and Deep Subconscious Mind Reset. Both protocols work on important aspects of the wounded ego and the corruption of inner beliefs about the self that become constraints and limitations keeping people on the sidelines of life unable to compete. In order to have a successful relationship it is almost always essential that people have some positive qualities to offer, and often it comes down to whether they can engage with someone in a meaningful way and communicate true feelings. At a minimum, people want a partner who will appreciate them and can show it in some fashion, and often to do that requires a certain level of self-confidence to be able to talk freely, feel emotion, and convey those feelings freely so people will know who they truly are on an important personal level. That is what people need to find out in order to begin to like someone and eventually admire them greatly enough to develop a romantic relationship.
So this woman has been engaged with a long-term healing program being facilitated deep within her mind to begin undoing the harmful episodes, not only of her youth but the amplifying effects of much, similar, negativity from events in other lifetimes where she was a female and at the mercy of fate, often revolving on physical attractiveness she was not truly in control of but often victimized by it. As always, prior karmic history is an important factor compounding the damage of early childhood trauma because the Law of Karma will see such episodes as an opportunity to bring around old business as a way of forcing people to face it and work on the problem, ideally. The problem through history has been the lack of real understanding of how to solve psychological damage and impairment without the proper tools to do karmic repair, and it is only with the advent of these protocols, and their understanding that multiple levels of the mind need to be addressed, that has given the possibility of getting full healing once and for all, from the great backlog of unhealed karmic damage all carry in their history.
So the woman we are discussing, having received enough healing attention, had a long-term state of depression begin to lift and, at the same time, it was not simply replaced by anxiety but that, too, began to fade and over time she was able to begin making more meaningful friendships, first with female acquaintances and then being able to take part in group settings where eligible men were present and little by little began to open up and share herself, tentatively at first but then more and more openly and directly. To her surprise and delight, the people she interacted with found her interesting and enjoyable to be with. So having spent years, in effect, closed off to others, she was like a butterfly finally emerging from a cocoon. She is now in a long-term love relationship that we see will flourish for a lifetime after spending years yearning for what seemed like something only available to others and out of reach for her. She has healed her way to become acceptable to others, and that was all that was really needed all along—a way to overcome the effects of the wounding that diminished her long ago.
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