A viewer asks: “Many people struggle with setting personal emotional or opinion and perspective boundaries. They fear rejection, worry about appearing selfish, or grew up in environments where boundaries weren’t modeled. It’s common to feel guilty initially when enforcing new limits, even though boundaries are fundamentally about self-respect. Is one aspect of Divine Principle for living #7 (…meet your responsibility to be your soul’s guardian, and take care of its safety and protection from harm) to be bold in holding the line, even when it feels uncomfortable, without being blunt, cold, or confrontational? Is this about practicing self-love through behavior, not over-accommodating or over-sacrificing?”

You are parsing out necessary perspectives to be true to the self when dealing with others and still honoring their rights and privileges. While this is always subjective and will depend on the level of discernment of the individual in evaluating a given circumstance, it is important to make the attempt to be balanced in all things, given that both sides of the equation are important because all are children of the divine. Finding an approach that is balanced so that individual needs are honored adequately without harm to anyone else, as best one can arrange, is ideal. It will be easier to tell for most people what will be serving themselves in such an arrangement. So there is always a greater risk of still leaving others at a disadvantage in order to ensure personal safety. But such karmic errors done in ignorance and inability to discern such fine points will be taken into account as a mitigating factor. It is important to not let greater negativity undermine the self simply to be the better person and take on a sacrifice out of misguided and excessive caution.