A viewer asks: “According to psychologist Laura L. Carstensen later-life couples often prioritize stability in their relationship over disagreement; they communicate gently and avoid overt conflict. They prioritize emotional closeness and positivity in interactions and tend to minimize negative exchanges. But this reduction in visible conflict can mean grievances and resentments are unresolved and can become a pattern of indefinite avoidance. When important concerns are unresolved, partners may feel unheard, isolated, or disconnected, even within long-standing relationships. Is this a wise recognition of time being finite and reaching for love or a shortcoming in addressing problems? Is talking enough?”

Here is yet another question proposing a psychological perspective in dealing with human issues and the complications of interrelationships in achieving balance and personal happiness. While talking, in the sense of being forthright and having issues out on the table, is often the first step to achieving an accommodation and a working arrangement that serves both parties, that is not necessarily the case. It can open up old wounds, it can aggravate situations that inherently might be intractable. There are many, many scenarios, many married couples who stay together because they individually feel trapped and helpless to change things, and live a second-rate life as a consequence in avoiding what to them is a greater risk in perhaps losing an ally of sorts and being on their own. There are often economic hardships too difficult to solve when couples break apart, so there are incentives to maintain the status quo. As always, we point out the missing elephant in the room, which is the fact most of human makeup is below conscious awareness, not to mention the soul itself which is a distant anchor for those in physical incarnations as a human being for short periods of time. So there is much to be gained from enlisting divine assistance for working on deep inner issues and concerns. And that applies to all a person is involved with, not only personally, but professionally in the workplace, and the many relationships people develop over time, starting with family and then including friends and acquaintances and in particular, life partners as the cornerstone of stability and happiness, under favorable circumstances at least. But everyone needs fine-tuning. Everyone needs much healing for the backlog of karmic trauma which all carry as a burden and an obligation remaining to work on. The sooner one gets started, the sooner one can gain from any healing achieved.